Last year, my grandfather, who had been suffering from cancer for two years, transitioned. After I learned of his passing, I experienced the spectrum of human emotions, from grief to anger, from sadness to peace.
During this process, I realized a simple truth about tragedy:
All events in our lives, whether we label them as good or bad, help us evolve.
Having experienced my own share of grief, and worked with clients through the grieving process, I’ve seen that the more we accept this truth, the more at peace we can become with the process.
There are some events in your life you’ll never “get over” or “forget.” At times you’ll experience pain and you’ll be hurt, and this is perfectly normal. However, despite the pain, you can make peace with whatever it is, and allow it to contribute to your evolution & growth rather than stunt it.
The key is to allow yourself to process the experience without judging, repressing, or denying it.
This is where self care can help. I’ve seen people implement self care during challenging times in their life, and it produced miraculous results in helping them transform their tragedy into a meaningful life lesson or treasured experiences.
Through depression, sadness, and despair, self care can enhance feelings of hopefulness and delight. It reminds us that as long as we still have life, we still have life, and joy is within our reach.
Here are 3 steps to transforming tragedies into blessings:
- Acknowledge what’s happening and how your feel about it. Don’t suppress “negative emotions” or paint a smiling face over them. Remember, it is not our feelings, but our resistance to our feelings that causes the most suffering. Journaling is a great tool to help you express how you’re really feeling.
- Remain open to the experience. Don’t get stuck in one way of viewing what’s happening to you. Chances are, you’ll experience a myriad of emotions, just go with it. Read inspirational texts or expert books related to the thing you are experiencing. This may help you increase your understanding of the occurrence, and help you gain insight about how to heal.
- Give yourself an outlet. This is the perfect time to dance, sing, exercise, take up martial arts, etc. If you keep your body moving during difficult times, this helps you continue to move forward, grow, and evolve rather than getting stuck in the experience.
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