At these times, there’s no question in my mind that I am exactly where I need to be and on the path I was meant to travel. Whatever I need comes to me and whatever I need to know is revealed to me. It’s during these times that I make the best decisions from a deep sense of knowing who I am and what I want.
Then there are times when I ponder, analyze, and gather opinions and advice about decisions that feel like they could be life changing. But if I make the wrong one, head down the wrong path, it feels like everything could fall apart. It’s during these times that nothing seems to go right, and the decisions I make are safe and comfortable.
This is when self care is the most difficult to commit to, but ironically, it’s when I need it the most.
This is why I believe in self care so much. By committing to myself, I form a deeper, more constant relationship with me, and I can hear my inner guidance more clearly even in times of seeming chaos. Albert Einstein said, “The only real valuable thing is intuition.”
Self care for me provides the best way of clearing out the clutter of other people’s opinions, social standards, and family expectations, and connecting to my own intuition so that I can hear it when I need to.
Sometimes we don’t realize that the very things that paralyze us are other’s beliefs and expectations of how we should act, live, and think. From the time we are born, we must learn the social structures of families, churches, schools, and jobs. We are constantly learning the rules and guidelines of how to behave, but never quite being allowed to just be.
All of these systems are intended to be good, but many times they can be quite stifling to our individuality. They can become so ingrained into who we think we are that we began to police ourselves and hold our lives accountable for other’s beliefs without even realizing it.
The only way to avoid this confused state of being is to get to know one’s real self. This is where the simple but profound benefits of self care start to kick in. Self care teaches me to be in the moment of honoring who I am without outside influences.
When you honor, respect, and nurture yourself, you actually establish a deeper sense of knowing yourself. This knowing leads to higher self-esteem and greater expression of your skills and talents.