People say this all of the time to themselves and other people. Although it seems like a simple statement, simply saying it and
repeating it over and over again can have detrimental effects on your life.
The statement I’m alluding to is “I don’t know.”
There are many different versions of this statement, such as:
“I don’t know what to do.”
“I don’t know what this means.”
“I don’t know how I feel.”
“I don’t know what I want.”
Even when you are feeling confused, unsure, and frustrated NEVER utter these word. When you hear yourself saying them, follow this four step practice:
- Stop Your Thoughts.
If you are not yet advanced in meditation to do this, then say to yourself silently or out loud, “Stop, stop, stop” until you can focus
- Take a deep breath.
Seriously, take a deep breath. inhale slowly through your nose and exhale fully through your mouth. Deep breaths and the increased oxygen and blood flow we receive from them, allow us to become more focused and open to new insights.
- Affirm knowingness.
Once you stop the cycle of “I don’t know” going through your mind, you can begin to reconnect to the fact that you do know. By affirming this, you become open to the insights and information you need at any given moment. Begin affirming, “I always know” and “What I need to know and what I need to do is revealed to me in perfect timing.”
“I don’t know” is never true. We always know. In the moments of our greatest confusion, there is not a lack of knowing, there’s a lack of connection. When we disconnect from ourselves, our desires, our intuition, then we live in a state of confusion.
The intention of the exercise about is to reconnect you to yourself and your inner knowingness. Usually it’s not lack of knowledge that holds us back, it’s fear and worry. You know what you should do, you just lack the courage and assertiveness to do it.
So instead of calming ourselves and building our courage, we worry. Worrying is the biggest waste of time for human beings. It serves absolutely no purpose. It makes us feel like we’re doing something productive, but we’re not. When you worry, you’re only making the situation worst by putting yourself in a state of frenzy. Worrying causes our minds to go on and on with negative and defeating thoughts. This state of mind can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression.
Instead of worrying, be calm. This does not mean do nothing. It simply means quiet your mind so that you can hear and be inspired to take appropriate action.
This is the essence of self care. Learning to speak to yourself in ways that enhance your life. Everything you do, from the thoughts you think to the actions you take should support you. This is the key to happiness.