Ultimately we want our kids to be happy, have great lives, and be better than us. All too often we want our kids to be all these great things, but we end up training them to be the way we want them to be. The major problem with this is that we may cause them to deny their own individuality. Sometimes our desire for respectful, disciplined children leads us to criticize the uniqueness right out of our children.
So I know what you’re wondering, “how do I train a child to be unique but still respectable and well-behaved?”
I have a six month old beautiful, silly, full of life, full of personality, happy girl who I recognize as having a blank slate on the perspective of the world. Right now my daughter’s perspective on the world is exciting, new, and joyous. My daughter, Skye, is so excited about life, she fights sleep because she doesn’t want to miss a moment of the excitement each moment brings. Watching Skye’s joy brings me to a tough decision. Should I limit her fascination with the world at this point by giving her training or let her discover her own path. Should I constantly tell her “no” multiple times a day or should I encourage her curiosity?
Many people tell me that Skye needs to be trained to sleep through the night, respect others, play by herself, and the list goes on. I think these things are important, but many of them, Skye figures out on her own. I spend most of our time together ensuring she knows she is love so her intuition will develop properly and her foundation for growth will be strong.
I think that we should all remember how unique we all are including our kids! Let’s learn to respect their individuality.
We should only train a child to be confident and grounded in who they really are. Our job as parents is to be supportive guides for a safe journey there.
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