I was so inspired by Phylicia Rashad’s letter to her younger self that has been making it’s way around the web (Read it here). I decided to write a letter to myself that so profoundly describes the lessons I learned in my 20’s. After reading it to myself, I just knew this letter could benefit someone else going through a transition or crisis in their lives.
Dear 25 year old Kyana,
Life’s going to get hard…harder than you can imagine right now. You’ll feel like life has betrayed you. You’ll feel like things are falling apart. Your career isn’t what you thought it would be. That relationship you thought would last forever, won’t. And since you used these two things to define yourself, you’ll feel lost without them. You’ll feel a pain so deep, at times you’ll think you’re dying (cause you’re so dramatic..lol).
But keep going. Life isn’t shrinking, it’s expanding. You’re not dying, you’re growing. Because you see, death is really just a metaphor for transformation. Every time something ends, something begins.
Take your time, you’re building something beautiful and that takes consistent effort. This time, choose the things that make you feel good and speak to the passion inside of you. Stop trying to impress other people. I have no doubt that this time, you’ll get it right.
On the other side of this pain is the miraculous life that you’ve been dreaming about. It WILL manifest. But you have to keep going. Don’t turn back. Don’t hold on when it’s time to let go. Love is not 100 percent acceptance and understanding at all times. It’s not loving what happens to you in every moment.
Love is awareness. Love is compassion. Love is faith. It’s holding on to your passion when you want to let go.
Keep Going. It’s about to get so good.
I love you.
I love you when you’re everything I know you can be and even when you’re not. Because love is patience. It’s knowing life will right itself if you give it a chance.
Kyana (the 30 year old version)
I encourage you to write your own letter to your younger self. Choose a time when it seemed like you were in a lot of pain. Although it may have been years ago, that person is still a part of who you are today.
Also, this is a great exercise to do when you’ve been through or are currently going through an identity crisis. Writing this letter to yourself helps you connect to who you really are and what you want out of life.
Here are some questions to get your letter started:
- When was the most challenging time in your life?
- What did you learn from this experience?
- What do you know now that you wish you’d known then?
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