Happy New Year!!!
Make this year the best year of your life.
Happy New Year!!!
Make this year the best year of your life.
If watching Barack Obama become president was the realization of Martin Luther King’s dream, watching Jamie Foxx as Django was the realization of Malcolm’s dream (at least early in his life.) Django was raw, unapologetic, cinematic, and a beautiful love story. It may be a remade title but the story and how it was told was completely original. The epic movie envisioned by Quientin Tarantino may have gave blacks the mental reparations that many have so searched for in various different forms. When I say reparations I mean that blacks can see this movie and see their history become a hero and not just a hero for hero’s sake, but a hero for nothing less than LOVE!
My wife and I saw Django not knowing what to expect and left from watching Django not knowing what to do or expect next. I feel as if the declare of my wife “I have never seen anything like that” was echoed through the hearts and minds of every person watching the film with us. I mean we have never seen anything like that in such dramatic form, “A SLAVE” becoming “A HERO!?”
You may say in your eagerness to protest that Amistad was a film of epic proportions and a slave was a hero, but Amistad ended with a free man headed home only to be reminded that he was black and expendable even if by his own village. When Django ended there was no hate for slavery, no hate for white people, no fear of being black in the world, there was nothing but pride for a hero who gained the love of his life. What that means is that Django was not a slave, so we were not slaves, we don’t have to look back at history and feel sadness, we can look back at history and say “I’m proud to be a hero for my ancestors!” My wife spoke about the statements Spike Lee said about the movie and how he was offended even before seeing the movie, he said the movie offended his ancestors.
In another breath she spoke about a former business associate who was upset at “black folk” who always feel entitled to something. Django, for me anyway, spoke to both Spike and the associate’s concerns, the movie showed a man going through hell (or “hell fire” as described in the film) just for love and the right to love. So to Spike this story gives our ancestors a hero who choose to be what GOD created him to be, a husband, an inspiration, and a hero. To the associate and those like her, black folks are entitled they are entitled to everything this country promises but are often slaves to their mental images of being a slave and powerless so they do nothing.
Big Boi from the group Outkast has a line in the song “Meanings” that says “Now or never, lets stick together and overcome. But they don’t feel like marchin, cuz they shoes is overrun…” that simply means that he feels black folks have come so far that now they just want to rest. The lyric from Big Boi sums up the mental slave image many black folk carry with them that says “I am entitled to have it all because I’ve been through so much!” Django is the visual image of that statement, and it’s stated in a very violent but dramatic fashion. The character played by Jamie Foxx felt entitled to what he wanted and also learned to not be a slave in any shape or form. He felt entitled to love and to live with his love, which are two things slaves were deprived of. They were not allowed to desire or choose to be with another person. However, Django fights hard for his entitlement. He’s willing to die for the love and marriage he feels entitled to have.
After you view Django you should feel pride no matter what your race. You should be proud that someone was allowed the freedom to make the film, proud that you can witness a man go from his lowest to his greatest for love, proud to be a hero that can live the life you choose without restraint. If you ask the question like my wife of “what should I do now” I would suggest that you be your own hero and free yourself from anything holding you back from your entitlements. That doesn’t mean to be violent but it means to be you and to be proud of it!
The Love Mob
My family and I made an impromptu trip from Atlanta, Ga to Los Angeles, California.
Today we played, “tourist” is Hollywood and visited the walk of fame, the kodak theatre and took pictures in front of the hollywood sign.
It was so fun.
Then, in the middle of nowhere, a mob came dancing down the street with signs saying “free hugs” and “love.” But they weren’t just holding signs. The mob was also singing, “We love you. Yeah, yeah, yeah.” And grabbing random people to hug them. They grabbed my 9 year old cousin and gave him a great big hug. lol. He was too shocked to really respond.
A few members of the mob were playing instruments. I felt like I was back in the 60’s or 70’s. It looked like a total hippie parade.
As weird as it looked, it felt refreshing.
The last couple of days, every time I log onto facebook, I see streams of statuses commenting about the recent tragedy in Connecticut. There’s all this talk about gun control, medication, mental illnesses, innocent children dying. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we don’t want, what’s sad, the tragedies that occur that we forget about what we do want. How do we want the world to feel? How should we treat others?
I think peace on earth depends on the peace we cultivate within our own hearts and minds, in our families, and within our communities. Sure, most of us wouldn’t commit an act of mass murder. But how many times do we speak negatively toward others? How many times do we ignore, criticize, or overlook the people around us who might need our support, encouragement, and love?
The people who commit unthinkable acts don’t live in a bubble. They live among us, with us, and a piece of them lives within us. We created them and then we become shocked when the unthinkable happens.
Please, let’s have a moment of silence for those who transitioned, pray for those who lost a loved one, recognize those who acted heroically, and support laws that will prevent this from happening again.
But let’s not ignore the emotion behind it. Let’s not forget that love is our greatest power. We need to cultivate it, nourish it, grow it.
Michael said when our hearts break, it means something new is trying to emerge. He encouraged us to live in the heartbreak. To feel it, and allow it to take us to places where real transformation happens.
Something new is happening in our world, and this won’t be the last time our hearts are broken in order to allow it in.
So many times, we don’t honor our hearts by feeling what we feel. When we’re hurt, we want to jump to feeling better so we immediately start talking about and working on the fixes and solutions to our pain.
“…break your heart open so new light can get in.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert
So I encourage you to Stop. Stop and Feel. Feel hurt. Get angry. Then open and allow yourself to be changed by it.
When our hearts are broken, we become open to new possibilities, greater compassion, and truer connections with each other.
Work on loving more. Let’s collectively agree to stop waiting for tragedies to occur to express love and compassion to each other. Love more. Not just strangers, but your family, your friends, your colleagues.
Give. Listen. Connect a little more today than you did yesterday.
In the beginning of August, Matt and I got married in the North Georgia Mountains. It was a beautiful and spiritual ceremony with a small amount of our closest family and friends.
We designed the ceremony ourselves and thoroughly planned the entire day. It was an amazing and rewarding experience. We knew from the very beginning that we wanted out wedding to be a reflection of us and our relationship. We both believe our lives should be a unique individual reflection of who we are so why would our wedding be any different.
We also knew this was more of a celebration for our families than for us. We made our life long commitment long ago and a piece of paper and public ceremony was not the foundation of this commitment. It’s just one part of a connection that is already whole.
We did things our way. We exchanged flowers instead of rings. We carried candles instead of flowers. Our wedding party wore white instead of just the bride. We made our own decisions So we didn’t stress ourselves out or go broke trying to impress people.
While most brides probably are more interested in their guests being impressed with the linen, wedding cake, and dresses, my guests said things like “This is the most spiritual event I’ve ever attended,” and “This ceremony changed the way I see my life and the world.” This is exactly what we were hoping for when we asked our guess to journey into the North Georgia Mountains (a 2 – 12 hour trip for our family & friends) and share in this sacred event with us.
We wanted people to do more than witness our ceremony. We wanted them to be active participants in manifesting love within ourselves and with the people in our lives. Love is more of a verb than a noun. It’s not something you acquire. Love is something you do, say, and be. Love must be practiced and activated within us before it can show up in our lives.
Matthew and I kept our ceremony and reception pretty simple, but we hope that it helped our guests (and will help you too) touch deeper places of love within you.
August Wedding Video
“Our soulmates show up when we’re ready to journey down the path toward self understanding and self awareness. Until then, even if we met our soulmate, we wouldn’t recognize them.”
Everyone wants to find their soulmate, but the key to finding your soulmate is to stop looking. Yes! Stop looking for the perfect person. Instead, start working on yourself. Workout, soul search, discover your passion. Do everything you would do with your soul mate. Do you imagine the two of you traveling the world, then travel. Do you see yourselves hanging out at the park or going to dinner at nice restaurants, do those things.
Don’t lament the fact that you are alone. Enjoy time to yourself to develop a meaning relationship with yourself. Trust me. Relationships are fun and exciting, but they are also hard work. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll wish you spent this alone time really healing and nourishing yourself so that you’re ready for a relationship once it appears.
Have you ever heard the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear?” Well, this is exactly how it works in love and relationships. When we’re desperate, we only meet losers. We we’re open and joyful, we meet wonderful people.
While you’re enjoying your life, having fun, and loving yourself, you’ll meet the perfect person. Be the perfect you and your soulmate will appear in your life, and you’ll be ready.
Read What Are Soulmates
Heal Your Heart… Make More Money?
Description: Ever feel like your heart is hurt, broken, or wounded?
Today, we’re going to open your heart to heal and receive more support from the world around you.
The amazing thing about this exercise is that it helps every kind of support show up in your life… including financial support. Healing your heart really can invite more money into your life.
Do this easy exercise with me and receive more support in your life:
Take another deep breath now. Doesn’t that exercise feel energizing and powerful? It’s because you are powerful and so is your heart!
You don’t need to feel wounded or brokenhearted anymore. You can open that heart wide to the world and receive more support of every kind. Allow people, experiences, and money to show up for you.
Remember, your heart energy is stronger and more vibrant than you even realize. You can release the painful stories that you carry and set that energy free in your life.
I love to hear from you. What else do you do to heal your heart? Please share a comment below.
If you would like to learn more about how your chakras are affecting every aspect of your life, you can take my chakra quiz at http://chakrahealing.com.
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If you know what changes a heart, you know what changes the world. ~ Marianne Williamson
The world is made up of lots of individual hearts. So we must learn to touch people at the core of who they are if we ever seek to create change on a greater scale. Our collective consciousness is made up of each of our individual conscious. This is the power behind the popular Ghandi quote, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” You can’t start with the larger world in order to create change within our community. It’s important to realize that our world is made up of our individual thoughts, beliefs, and feelings.
The same things that inspire and motivate people will ignite change on a grander scale. So even if you are just one person, you can have a great impact. Start now. Start in the life you’re living now. Reach out to estranged family members, talk to your neighbor, learn to coexist with your enemies. Repair the relationships in your life. this may not seem like a powerful way to effect the world, but it is. The people in your life right now should be the one’s who you practice being a world changer with.
Can you change yourself?
Can you positively influence the people around you?
Illuminate your own heart with love, inner joy, and peace, and you will be better positioned to take on grander tasks in the world.
Be the light in the lives of people around you. Because you know what? The world is made up of individuals, families, communities, and cultures. As you shape the world around you, you will gain the ability and power to share wisdom with others.
Self realization is a mandatory step before the world can manifest into something higher and better. Self-actualization is how you change the world. Once you evolve, you give others around you permission to evolve as well.
This type of personal empowerment and freedom changes worlds.
So what does change a heart?
These are the exact same elements we need in our world. Bring more of this to your everyday life. Print this list out. Carry it with you everywhere you go. Be these characteristics to everyone you meet. And your world will change.
Arguing and disagreeing with the people we love is a natural part of all relationships. We’re not always going to agree.
However, arguments don’t have to include yelling, screaming, throwing things, and getting physical and downright nasty with each other. Disagreeing can be a peaceful exchange where you don’t end up saying or doing something you’ll regret.
So the key to happy relationships is not eliminating disagreements altogether, but learning how to peacefully disagree so that you become closer, understand each other better, and your love for one another deepens.
Some may think this is impossible. “How do you peacefully disagree?”
Well, there are three main components to a peaceful argument. They include:
There are easy ways to incorporate all of these key components into a discussion. It involves dealing with conflict in a calm way that relies heavily on self awareness and self acceptance for our feelings, behaviors, and how we express these parts of ourselves to other people.
Here is a 3 step process to more effective arguing. When you are butting heads with a loved one, friend, or colleague, follow these steps to bring more clarity to any situation.
1. Get in touch with how you feel.
Before you open your mouth to speak, connect to your own feelings. Are you feeling frustrated, hurt, angry? You must first know your own deep feelings before you try to convey them to others. Complete this sentence, “How I feel is __________ .”
2. State what you need.
What are you asking for in the situation? Complete this sentence, “What I need is ____________ .”
3. Ask the other person how they feel and what they need.
Be open to what they say. Listen.
Repeat until you come to some common ground and understanding. Openly express yourself and acknowledge the open expression of the other person. We all just want to be understood and heard. Listen and speak. This is the cycle of good communication.
At this point in my life, I’d like to live as if only love matters. As if redemption was in sight. As if the search to live honestly is all that anyone needs. No matter if they find it. ~ Tracy Chapman
I love this quote. It always speaks to my soul, every time I hear it.
When it comes down to it, there are very few things that really matter in life. Imagine getting to the end of your life and thinking back on the days you are living right now. A great way to know if you’ve discovered the important things is to imagine yourself as an old man or woman thinking back on who you are today and what you’re doing.
With wisdom, self-love, and grace, are you proud of yourself? Would you die knowing that you served your purpose here on earth? Will what you’re doing now matter to you when you’re dying?
Hard questions, I know. But they’re even harder to answer when the time comes and you’ve had no preparation.
These are the questions you’ll ask at the end and you’ll want to know the answer before you get there.
So what’s your answer?
Live now. Not in the past as a victim and not in the future as regret. LIVE NOW! Live honestly. Live true. Your life is the expression of you.
Who are you and what were you meant to bring to the world?
For this moment on, allow your life to be the answer.
All things are possible, but….
First there is thought, then there’s a manifestation that is aligned with your thoughts. This is called vibration. There’s movement and creating happening that you can’t always see. Atoms are energy. When you look at something physical under a microscope, you see cells and atoms. It looks solid on the surface, but very much like human beings, it is dynamic, not static. Look at your body in the mirror.
Seriously, go to a mirror and look at your body. It looks still and concrete — right. It looks static and solid. But this is an illusion. There’s blood moving within you. Oxygen circulating. Cells undergoing mitosis. At this very moment, there are chemical reactions occurring.
Did you know?
– Your heart beats 101,000 times a day.
– You take 23,000 breaths a day.
– 25 billion cells are produced in body every second.
But as you look into the mirror, you can’t see any of this. All you see is solid body. Don’t be fooled by what your eyes can see. Your eyes are limited. They only see one perspective of reality — not the whole truth.
Right now…right this second. Your body is changing. Vibration isn’t new age mumbo jumbo. Vibration is physics. Everything you see is vibrating. Science is still searching for the root of matter.
You and what you want are vibrations you need to align. It’s that simple. Get into vibration of what you want.
Watch this video. Listen to what Abraham is saying. Come back and listen to it everyday if you have to.