“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” ~ Benjamin Spock
“Beauty is the illumination of your soul.” ~ Rumi
“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.” ~ Rumi
“Love calls everywhere and always.” ~ Rumi
We can never escape love or the desire for love.
We can temporarily turn our backs on it. But eventually it will become so strong that we can’t ignore it.
In fact, most things we do in our lives, we do to get love or give love. Maybe not on the surface. But this is a underlying desire for all human beings. We all want to be accepted and loved on some level.
Truly, what is more important than love? A person can have all the money in the world, but no love and be miserable. But if a person is deeply and unconditionally loved abundantly, they can be very happy even with very little money.
I’m not pitting money and love against each other. Both play important roles in our lives. However, we already acknowledge the importance of money. Many of us spend all of our time and energy working for the money to support ourselves. We can easily neglect our loved ones and the things and experiences we love for the sake of money. However, we need to realize love is too important to neglect and ignore.
When we are open and receptive, we realize love is everywhere. As Rumi reminds us, it’s all around us.
When you ignore it, it will come after you. It will pursue you and remind you of it’s power. Just like breathing and eating, loving is a necessity to life.
“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” ~ Gloria Steinem
There are many different opinions about whether you should love your work or not. Is it an act of passionate expression or is it just a way to make a living?
I think for every person, the answer is different.
However, just for a second, lend me your imagination. Together, let’s imagine a life where you are absolutely in love with your work. Where every day, every project, every tasks excites you. It drives you. Every time you complete something, you yearn to work on something else. You dream about your work and see it’s implications in the world all around you.
You spend 40 hours a week in pure bliss because you’re expressing the best parts of yourself. You even surprise yourself as you delve deeper and deeper into your passion and express talents and creativity you didn’t even know was there.
Do you know the best part?
You actually get paid to do something you would do for free. And I’m not talking about minimum wage. You get paid enough to live as you desire. You don’t have to struggle in your work. It satisfies you emotionally, creatively, and financially.
Can you see this type of life?
I’m not sure what you believe about work. Whether you think a job is a job or a job is a true life’s purpose. Couldn’t you see your life being enriched if you were inlove with what you did?
I think everyone has the potential to live this way.
We just need to ditch outdated ideas about work. These ideas include:
- hard work is more respectable.
- work isn’t suppose to be fun.
- creative people don’t make any money.
- I can’t make money from my passion.
- Being miserable at work is normal.
Ditch these ideas and open up your imagination to a new way of living passionately.
“You are a magnet for infinite abundance, divine intelligence, and unlimited love.
This is actually a great affirmation. Just change the “you” to “I,” and it reads,
“I am a magnet for infinite abundance, divine intelligence, and unlimited love.”
What a great belief to have! Imagine a life built on this belief.
We are always a magnet to our beliefs. That’s why it’s so much more important to cultivate the inside instead of worrying about the outside. We will always attract in life what we give out. And what we give our is determined by our beliefs.
So many times we think we know what we believe but we don’t. It takes time, focus, and dedicated energy to figure out what our beliefs are. Sometimes, we have to dig deep to uncover those beliefs guiding our lives. The best way to see what you believe is to look at what you’re attracting into your life.
Look at the different compartments of your life. Examine your relationships, career, money, health, and spirituality. Is everything on a level you would like it to be on? Does every part of your life reflect the desires you have?
If not, there may be a belief hat’s holding you back from experiencing everything you desire.
I have the perfect exercise to help you get into alignment.
Grab a pen and your journal or a piece of paper. Follow these simple steps.
1. Write down every important part of your life with at least three to four lines separating each line. For example, write family, skip three to four lines. Write health skip three to four lines. And continue these steps for the rest of the sections of your life.
2. Under each section, write down two to three goals you have for that part of your life. For example, for health, you may want to lose weight. So you would write, lose 20 pounds. Keep the goals short but specific.
3. Write down a positive affirmation that speaks about your goals as if they already happened. This will be the new belief you need to install. It will help you remove any blockages or self sabotage habits keeping you from achieving your goals.
4. Lastly, take about a minute in the beginning of every day to review what you have written. Speak your affirmation beliefs out loud to reprogram your beliefs.
The truth is, achieving our goals is easy. The hard part is getting out of our own way. When we really believe in ourselves and our desires, nothing, absolutely nothing, can stop us from achieving what we want. We are the only ones who hold ourselves back. We don’t do all we can. We make up excuses. We procrastinate. These are all very dangerous habits we develop overtime because our believes don’t support our desires.
That’s why it’s important to change our beliefs to match our desires. Often, we focus on the actions we need to take to change. But we’ll easily find a way not to follow through with the actions if our beliefs aren’t aligned.
Whatever you believe determines your life. Spend dedicated, focused time each day aligning your beliefs to your desires.
“Love it, love it and the beat and beating heart, love that too. More than eyes or feet. More than lungs that have yet to draw free air. More than your life-holding womb and your life-giving private parts, hear me now, love your heart. For this is the prize.” ~ Toni Morrison
This is one of my favorite quotes of all times. It comes from Toni’s novel Beloved. It’s a passage from a sermon a preacher is giving to a group of people about how they can’t trust the world to give them all the love they need. They must learn to love themselves.
This is the message for every person who has ever suffered, a oppressed group of people who have ever lived on this earth. We focus so much on freedom, but love is key. Love is the bridge that takes us from freedom to joy.
We are starting to recognize the power of our hearts. This is the most amazing and powerful thing in our whole body. The 1900’s was dedicated to the brain. But just watch. The 21st century will be focused on the power of the heart.
“The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.” -Buddha
Here are some interesting facts I bet you didn’t know about the heart.
- The heart begin to form in the fetus before the brain.
- The average heart beats 110,000 times a day, 40 million times a year, 3.5 billion times in a lifetime.The human heart emits the strongest electromagnetic field in our body.
- The heart’s electromagnetic field is five thousand times stronger than the brain’s electromagnetic field.
- The electrical impulse of each heart beat can be measured 3 to 4 feet from the body.
- The heart sends more information to the brain, than the brain does to the heart.
- The electricity generated by the heart can be detected and measured in the brain patterns of another person nearby
The following video has even more information about the power of the heart.
Mysteries of the Heart
“Our soulmates show up when we’re ready to journey down the path toward self understanding and self awareness. Until then, even if we met our soulmate, we wouldn’t recognize them.”
Everyone wants to find their soulmate, but the key to finding your soulmate is to stop looking. Yes! Stop looking for the perfect person. Instead, start working on yourself. Workout, soul search, discover your passion. Do everything you would do with your soul mate. Do you imagine the two of you traveling the world, then travel. Do you see yourselves hanging out at the park or going to dinner at nice restaurants, do those things.
Don’t lament the fact that you are alone. Enjoy time to yourself to develop a meaning relationship with yourself. Trust me. Relationships are fun and exciting, but they are also hard work. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll wish you spent this alone time really healing and nourishing yourself so that you’re ready for a relationship once it appears.
Have you ever heard the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear?” Well, this is exactly how it works in love and relationships. When we’re desperate, we only meet losers. We we’re open and joyful, we meet wonderful people.
While you’re enjoying your life, having fun, and loving yourself, you’ll meet the perfect person. Be the perfect you and your soulmate will appear in your life, and you’ll be ready.
Read What Are Soulmates
Oprah Learns That Love Doesn’t Hurt – Oprah’s Lifeclass – Oprah Winfrey Network
Love is Love. It’s not suppose to hurt. Love should feel good, empowering and passionate. It shouldn’t feel painful, frustrating, and demeaning.
Love heals. If you feel constantly torn down by love, then you are definitely experiencing something else. Maybe you have chosen to relive some trauma you’ve experienced in your past. Maybe you need to learn how to stand up for yourself or that you deserve more. Whatever it is, know that if it’s not building you up and supporting you then it’s not love.
I always say we love according to who we are. This explains why when people say “I love you” it can mean so many different things. If someone had a troubling childhood, they may not know the correct language of real love. So never accept someone else’s definition of love. You determine what love should look like and feel like in your life and choose based on that.
Love is not blind. Broken hearts are blind. Whole hearts know what true love looks like. If you keep falling in love with losers, take some time to heal from your past before choosing again.