Oprah Learns That Love Doesn’t Hurt – Oprah’s Lifeclass – Oprah Winfrey Network
Love is Love. It’s not suppose to hurt. Love should feel good, empowering and passionate. It shouldn’t feel painful, frustrating, and demeaning.
Love heals. If you feel constantly torn down by love, then you are definitely experiencing something else. Maybe you have chosen to relive some trauma you’ve experienced in your past. Maybe you need to learn how to stand up for yourself or that you deserve more. Whatever it is, know that if it’s not building you up and supporting you then it’s not love.
I always say we love according to who we are. This explains why when people say “I love you” it can mean so many different things. If someone had a troubling childhood, they may not know the correct language of real love. So never accept someone else’s definition of love. You determine what love should look like and feel like in your life and choose based on that.
Love is not blind. Broken hearts are blind. Whole hearts know what true love looks like. If you keep falling in love with losers, take some time to heal from your past before choosing again.