“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” ~ Aristotle
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“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” ~ Aristotle
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“Love calls everywhere and always.” ~ Rumi
We can never escape love or the desire for love.
We can temporarily turn our backs on it. But eventually it will become so strong that we can’t ignore it.
In fact, most things we do in our lives, we do to get love or give love. Maybe not on the surface. But this is a underlying desire for all human beings. We all want to be accepted and loved on some level.
Truly, what is more important than love? A person can have all the money in the world, but no love and be miserable. But if a person is deeply and unconditionally loved abundantly, they can be very happy even with very little money.
I’m not pitting money and love against each other. Both play important roles in our lives. However, we already acknowledge the importance of money. Many of us spend all of our time and energy working for the money to support ourselves. We can easily neglect our loved ones and the things and experiences we love for the sake of money. However, we need to realize love is too important to neglect and ignore.
When we are open and receptive, we realize love is everywhere. As Rumi reminds us, it’s all around us.
When you ignore it, it will come after you. It will pursue you and remind you of it’s power. Just like breathing and eating, loving is a necessity to life.
“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” ~ Gloria Steinem
Jada has been dropping knowledge on her facebook page lately. Here’s her latest wisdom. Enjoy it!
Is True Love Real?
I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it?
Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us…effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a grand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings.
Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance. True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love…then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting…true love.
Remember this… When we engage in the dance of love…we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers.
My humble thoughts.
“Our soulmates show up when we’re ready to journey down the path toward self understanding and self awareness. Until then, even if we met our soulmate, we wouldn’t recognize them.”
Everyone wants to find their soulmate, but the key to finding your soulmate is to stop looking. Yes! Stop looking for the perfect person. Instead, start working on yourself. Workout, soul search, discover your passion. Do everything you would do with your soul mate. Do you imagine the two of you traveling the world, then travel. Do you see yourselves hanging out at the park or going to dinner at nice restaurants, do those things.
Don’t lament the fact that you are alone. Enjoy time to yourself to develop a meaning relationship with yourself. Trust me. Relationships are fun and exciting, but they are also hard work. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll wish you spent this alone time really healing and nourishing yourself so that you’re ready for a relationship once it appears.
Have you ever heard the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear?” Well, this is exactly how it works in love and relationships. When we’re desperate, we only meet losers. We we’re open and joyful, we meet wonderful people.
While you’re enjoying your life, having fun, and loving yourself, you’ll meet the perfect person. Be the perfect you and your soulmate will appear in your life, and you’ll be ready.
Read What Are Soulmates
Aristotle on Finding Your Soul Mate
Was Aristotle the first self help writer? According to Karen Salmansohn, author of How to Be Happy, Damnit, he was.
Not only did he write about happiness and life, but he had a lot to say about relationships.
According to Aristotle, there are three types of relationships that people generally get into. Two will make you miserable and probably won’t last very long, and one will lead to the love of your dreams, your soul mate, your perfect match.
One key to entering into the right relationship is knowing who you are and what you want out of life. It’s not enough to map out what you want your partner to be with a list four pages long.
Who do you want to be when you’re with your soul mate? Once you have a clear idea about this, actually finding a partner and maintaining a happy relationship will be so easy you’ll wonder why you never did this before.
So start acting like your ideal person. No need hoping and wishing for someone who works out everyday and has a tight body when you’re pretty flabby yourself. Be your ideal person. What does this person look like? How do they act? What do they think about and dream about? Become them. Step by step, day by day.
Once you self actualize, your ideal partner will show up.
Oprah Learns That Love Doesn’t Hurt – Oprah’s Lifeclass – Oprah Winfrey Network
Love is Love. It’s not suppose to hurt. Love should feel good, empowering and passionate. It shouldn’t feel painful, frustrating, and demeaning.
Love heals. If you feel constantly torn down by love, then you are definitely experiencing something else. Maybe you have chosen to relive some trauma you’ve experienced in your past. Maybe you need to learn how to stand up for yourself or that you deserve more. Whatever it is, know that if it’s not building you up and supporting you then it’s not love.
I always say we love according to who we are. This explains why when people say “I love you” it can mean so many different things. If someone had a troubling childhood, they may not know the correct language of real love. So never accept someone else’s definition of love. You determine what love should look like and feel like in your life and choose based on that.
Love is not blind. Broken hearts are blind. Whole hearts know what true love looks like. If you keep falling in love with losers, take some time to heal from your past before choosing again.
We are such communal beings. Humans thrive on our relationships and interactions with others. The people we spend the most time with and are closest to really shape and define who we are.
This isn’t just true when we’re young, this is true throughout our lives.
Since our relationships have such a profound effect on the type of people we are, let’s create more positive relationships. It’s sad when people tell me how stressful their relationships are. Whether it’s your lover, spouse, friends, or families, relationships are suppose to nurture us and support us. They shouldn’t make us feel exhausted and emotionally drained all of the time.
There are times when you will argue or fight with the people you love. But this shouldn’t be a regular occurrence. If you don’t regularly feel inspired by the people you spend the most time with, then start using this affirmation to ignite some change in your relationships.
It might mean expanding your social circle to find people who share your passion and vision in life.
Divine love is more than just emotion, it’s also action, effort, and devotion. This affirmation reminds you to remain open and know that you can be happy in any relationship.
Last weekend, the hubby and I had a date.
So the fact that we were able to accomplish all of that in one day definitely made the date fabulous before we even left the house. lol.
But that’s not where our innovation for the night ended. We decided to have even more fun and do a little role playing. For the night we weren’t mommy and daddy (although we LOVE our new roles) but we were just Kyana and Matt — two people who are incredibly in love with ourselves, our lives, and each other. Between working on the blog and raising our babygirl, we don’t always take the time we need to live in the NOW of our love for each other.
So we took this night not to just go out and have fun, but to nourish and create sacred space for our relationship, which is important if we want to continue to grow together and be happy and connected.
So instead of just getting ready and going out, Matt took Skye to his mom’s house (Read: The Best Babysitter) while I got ready in an outfit I just purchased a week ago and Matt has never seen.
I took the time, just like I would for a first date, to get ready, do my makeup, try out a new hair style, put on a new dress, and basically go all out. I treated the occasion not like I was going out with someone I’ve known for forever. But I treated it like I was going out with someone I was interested in getting to know. No matter how long you’ve been dating someone, you must continue to seek to get to know them because there’s always a deeper level. Superficial is for dating, depth is the benefit to a long-term relationship. We get to know each other and ourselves deeper than we ever thought possible.
The funny thing, with this mindset, I felt like I was getting ready for a first date. Butterflies and nervousness. Anticipation and excitement. All the new date emotions were present.
Matt also took on the guy responsibilities of planning the date — totally without me. He enlisted his mom as a babysitter, decided where we were going, and even made reservations without giving me any clue of where we were headed for the night.
It was exilerating and such a relief to know that a long-term relationship (over 6 years of dating and 10 years of being friends) could still feel so renewed.
I wonder if we regularly made the effort, like we do for first dates, with our long-term partners, maybe relationships wouldn’t grow apart at the rates they are today.
But, anywho, so in true gentleman fashion, Matt picked me up with flowers in hand and he rang the door bell. Yes, we live together, but there was such a cuteness of him coming to the door and ringing the bell with flowers in hand, while I was fully dressed and fabulously ready.
So we headed out on the town, and it was so wonderful. There were conversations, eye contact, hand holding (yes we’re cheesy like that). Everything was perfect.
We went to a restaurant that had a scenic outdoor bar on the river for drinks and appetizers. Then we went to a jazz restaurant in the middle of town that had great food and live music, which both Matt and I deeply enjoy.
We really had the perfect night. Full of the romance, sweetness, and the beauty of love.
Yes, it took planning, effort, and energy, but it was worth it.
I always say great, close nit families are consciously built — they don’t spontaneously happen. Well, so are great relationships. Expecting someone to stick around without any effort on your part is just BS. They won’t and neither will you. Never get in a relationship to get lazy. Relationships are work. Fun, passionate, soul-deepening work, but work nonetheless.
For relationships to work, it’s important to keep the courting alive. True Romance is being willing to get to know each other over and over again.