We often view pain as something inconvenient and wrong in our lives. We’d rather not feel it and sometimes we don’t even acknowledge it. We suppress pain and call this suppression courage. We stifle emotional pain. We pop pills to numb physical pain. We consider not feeling our pain as a cure to pain. But it’s not. This only prolongs our pain, making our experience of suffering more intense. When we repress or numb pain, it continues to bubble up until, eventually, it erupts.
Iyanla Vanzant explains pain as an opportunity. Her acronym for Pain is Pay Attention Inward Now. So pain calls us, or yells at us to reflect inward.
My definition of pain takes this concept a little further. When we experience pain, it is a sign that we are out of balance. Pain, by itself, is never the real issue. Pain is just a symptom of a person being out of balance. When we are in pain, one of the following is not in alignment with who we truly are.
- What we desire
- What we believe
- What we think
- What we do
All of the above need to be aligned in order for a person to experience vibrant health and well-being. How do you keep these 4 concepts in alignment? This requires a serious dedication to self care. You must know yourself on all four of these levels. Ask yourself these simple questions:
1. What do I desire?
2. What do I believe about yourself and life?
3. What do I think about daily?
4. What actions have become my habits?
Once you can answer these questions. Begin to analyze them for congruency. Do your beliefs support your desires? Do you thoughts support your beliefs? Do your actions align with your thoughts?
This is a simple process, but it can bring tremendous awareness into your life. It will tell you if your living according to the truth of who you are. It will reveal to you if you’re faking it through your life.
The funny thing about faking it is other people will believe you. You may even start to believe yourself. But it’s impossible to convince your spirit and your soul that faking it is real. They will rebel. Your spirit always knows the truth of who you are. And it fights for this truth even when we give up on ourselves. This looks like pain, physical and emotional eruptions. Something in our life will break, fall apart, or crack. This is awareness and light trying to break through in the places where we’re hiding.
“God has given you one face, and you make yourself another.” ~ William Shakespeare
Pain means it’s time to wake up. It means it’s time to be more authentic. Healing is the result of becoming more real than you ever knew was possible. Learn to see your pain differently. I’m not telling you not to seek a remedy for your pain, but realize your pain is a symbol of misalignment and start asking yourself the important questions to get back in balance.
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